Alesia and Nick are beautiful people both inside and out and together, they make a beautiful couple. Their wedding was one I will always remember because of the thoughtfulness and gentle sincerity that resonated throughout the entire day. They recently celebrated their one-year anniversary and I was thrilled to get a chance to look back with both of them and reflect on their special day.
Michelle: Time travel back one year ago…what would you change about your wedding day?
Alesia and Nick: We would have rearranged the formal photograph time so that we could have enjoyed the cocktail hour. We didn’t get the opportunity to mingle during cocktail hour and that was one area where we had put a lot of work into thinking through the music, the food and decorations to create the ambiance for that particular part of the day. We also would have hired a videographer. We felt like there were moments we missed and I would love the opportunity now to look back on a video and reminisce about our day.
Michelle: What was your favorite moment from your wedding day?
Alesia and Nick: This is a hard one…there were so many! The vow exchange and the poem dedication to our grandparents probably top the list because they were so heartfelt and meaningful for so many reasons.
Michelle: The vows you wrote will remain in my memory forever. You captured the entire congregation – you could hear a pin drop! Did you keep those vows somewhere? What made you decide to write your own vows?
Alesia and Nick: I keep a copy of both of our vows in my wallet. I pull them out and refer to them whenever I need a reminder of what I signed up for and what I committed to doing as a wife. My grandmother raised me to believe that all you have in this world is God and your word and if you say you are going to do something, then that’s what you had better do. I wanted our vows to be those words we would live by in our marriage.
I asked Alesia if we could share the vows with our blog readers as they were so beautiful. She kindly agreed.
Alesia’s vows to Nick:
First, I thank God for placing you in my life as I am grateful for your presence.Without you, I would not have faced some of my own fears and shortfalls. You give me strength. I wouldn’t have our beautiful daughter. Thank you for allowing me to be me and loving me anyways. I know I am not always the easiest person to love but somehow, you see past that. You’ve helped me understand that not everyone will look at things the way I do, nor should they but I have to accept that and be okay with it. And because of this inspiration and growth. I chose you.
Nick’s vows to Alesia:
I am not the same person I was four years ago and I thank you for making the man I am today. You’ve forced me to own up to my faults, my insecurities and my misgivings. It has not been easy but it has been what I’ve needed. You have been what I needed. I thank God for bringing you to me.
Michelle: I loved the way you gave the single girls at your wedding a single white rose in place of the traditional bouquet toss. What made that moment even more beautiful were the words that you spoke to your friends. What inspired you in that moment?
Alesia and Nick: The majority of the ladies were really good friends and/or family. I think that sometimes we, as women, compare ourselves to one another instead of living in our own moments and truly allowing God and the universe to guide us. Society tells us there is a “right” way to go about life but when you really stop and think about things, there isn’t a right or wrong approach to anything. There may be preferences which we are all entitled to but each person has the right to choose when, how and who they spend their lives with. Life is short and tomorrow isn’t promised. Live in the moment and let go of preconceptions and notions that there has to be one way to do things. God has a plan for everyone – we have to be open and receptive to it even when it doesn’t look like we think it should look like. I really wanted each of the women at our wedding to really feel special, not because they caught the bouquet but just because they are special.
Michelle: What advice could you pass along for their wedding day? And how about any words of wisdom on the first year of marriage?
Alesia and Nick: Incorporate everything that you and your future mate would want and don’t be concerned with what others have to say or did or didn’t do in their weddings – it makes for a day you will cherish for a lifetime; make the planning fun by not getting to stressed over little things – if something doesn’t come out the way you expect just go with it…no one will really know.
The first year is the same as the last year but with a lifelong commitment. This means you must do the work to keep the marriage intact, happy and fulfilling.
Images by Vic Ledan Photography